Sunday, October 15, 2006

Cop out

dawn's journey
I am so sick of people using the "don't you want to be around for your kids" theory when I am thinking of continuing to compete in Ironman. Like that is going to take me away from my kids some how. What if it did? Then wouldn't I be teaching them to live full out? Wouldn't it be better to show them that living life to the fullest is the best way to live. Do I want to show them that I lived life "safely"? Hmmm I can hear it now..."She lived life safely - unfulfilled, but safe and then she was with us for a long time while she wondered "what if" she had done it her way." I think that when people tell me to think about being around for my kids they are using that as a cop-out to do big things. I think it is then about fear. I would much rather demonstrate to them the value of living life to the fullest. To leave it all out "there and give it your all - all the time"! Anything less than that is a cop-out!


JohnnyTri said...

I couldnt agree more! I hear that too, sometimes from my wife about doing things that are risk, etc. riding/running in the dark when its the only time to get it done.
But teaching your kids to go for what they feel in there heart and setting goals and going after them does require sacrafices.
I think its the right thing. Go for it and enjoy everyday.

dawnelder said...

Hey Johnny,
After I wrote that, I thought about how angry it sounded. As soon as my kids remind me how much fun they have at the races, I know that all is well!

Anonymous said...

i agree with you, dawn! i have two kids - 11 and 10. i hope that what they learn from me are things like commitment and discipline and what it takes accomplish a goal vs. quitting and being afraid to try. you do what you enjoy and what makes you fulfilled and they will learn by watching you. its not selfish at all!